The Gottman Method

I have completed advanced training in the Gottman method. This is a contemporary approach to intervention for couples that is research based and has been shown to produce effective results.  The emphasis of the Gottman method is on the formation of emotional bonds and connection within the relationship, the skills of conflict resolution, and becoming best friends once again.
Couples in distress would best be served by private 90 minute sessions.  Those who would simply like to enhance their relationship or those who would like to cut the costs of individual counselling, might elect to take the Sound Relationship House Couples Retreat (Get more information on this site)

The Gottman Institute is located in Seattle, Wash.

The Gottman Method will help you learn:

How to interrupt the Four Horsemen (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling) in order to have a more constructive dialogue.

How to physiologically self-soothe in order to prevent escalated quarrels.

How to avoid, "Attack-Defend" cycles in order to listen, and

How to help you dialogue about your grid-locked conflicts, rather than avoid them.

You will be able to deepen your connection by:

Creating ritulas of connection and a system of shared values and meaning.

We will also work with additional issues that interfer with the bonding of couples, such as affairs, PTSD, and depression.


  Next Sound Relationship House Couples Retreat
Silver Hills Resort, Lumby, BC
October 12 - 14, 2012
The following costs include: 2 nights accommodations, 5 meals (3 Saturday, 2 Sunday), use of hot tub, steam room, and sauna, plus the workshop and private consultations.
One queen bed - $530   (5 rooms available)
One double bed - $520   (1 room available)
Two twin beds - $480   (2 rooms reserved - 1 room available)
One twin bed ** - $440   (reserved - 0 rooms available)
One double bed with private bathroom across the hall - $460   (1 room available)
* Prices include HST - rooms are assigned upon receiving of the a $150 deposit.  The deposit is non-refundable if cancelation is not made at least 5 days before the weekend begins.
** twin bed is a 3/4 size and may work for 2 smaller people.
$150 deposit reserves your room (Send a cheque payable to Don Straub, 8 - 820 McKenzie Rd., Kelowna, BC, V1X 8B5).  Pay the balance upon arrival in the form of a cheque payable to Don Straub.
Driving directions to Silver Hills Resort:

Click here to go to the Silver Hills Resort website, then find a map under "Contact"

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